Why I Chose to Adopt as a Single Mother – And Why You Can Too
For years, I dreamed of becoming a mother. Not necessarily as part of a traditional family, not waiting for the perfect partner—but simply as a woman who had so much love to give, a home to offer, and a deep desire to nurture and raise a child. Eventually, I realized I didn’t need to wait for the “perfect” situation. I could be the parent my future child needed, just as I was. I got to meet my nephew, who is also adopted, and things changed for me. I knew then that it is something I must look into. I got in contact with PROCARE and honestly I knew after day 1, I am going to be fine!
Adopting as a single mother is not for the faint of heart, I have learnt that now, but neither is parenting in any form. Here's why I chose this path at the age of 42 and why I believe it's not only possible but deeply meaningful.
Motherhood Isn't Defined by Marital Status!
Our culture often celebrates the image of the nuclear family: mom, dad, kids. But love, stability, and support aren't exclusive to couples. I realized I could give a child all of these as a single person. I don’t need to “complete” a family......I can be a family.
Children Need Love, Not Perfection.
The world is full of children who need homes. They don’t need a perfect parent; they need a present, loving and safe one. When I shifted my focus from what I thought I lacked to what I had to give, everything changed. I had the time, the heart, and the readiness to provide a stable, nurturing life for a child.
Independence Can Be a Strength...not a Setback!
As a single woman, I’ve learned to be self-reliant, organized, and resilient qualities that help me be a parent. I make every decision with intention, and I get to build a family dynamic that reflects my values and lifestyle. It’s not always easy and you will get it wrong sometimes, but it’s incredibly empowering. And sometimes I need to be vulnerable and lean on my "village".
Adoption Is a Conscious Choice to Love.
Every parent loves their child, but when you adopt, you go through a deeply intentional journey to bring a child into YOUR life. There is no accident or assumption. It’s a deliberate, soul-deep “yes.” That choice is powerful. It forms a bond that’s built on courage, vulnerability and pure love.
You’re Not Alone.
There’s a growing community of single adoptive parents across the world. The staff at PROCARE has made and still makes it a lot easier and their door is ALWAYS open for support and advice!
You’re Enough!!
If you’re wondering whether you can adopt as a single mother, let me tell you.... you can for sure! If your heart is open and your commitment is real, you already have what it takes to change a child’s life, and your own.
This journey isn’t about proving yourself... It’s about offering your love. And sometimes, that’s all a child really needs.
If you are thinking about it....get in contact with PROCARE asap! Everyone involved will make sure you make this decision with all the information you need!
My baby boy joined me this year and honestly it has been the best decision I have ever made. All the work that went into matching the 2 of us.....I will forever be grateful to PROCARE . A better match they couldn't find.
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