Becoming a Mom – With the Support of PROCARE

I always knew I had love to give. But for a long time, I thought motherhood might only come when life looked a certain way…when I was married, more “settled,” or had everything perfectly lined up.

Then one day, I realised: the perfect time may never come, but the right child just might. And I was ready to open my heart and home.

That’s when I found PROCARE.

From the moment I walked through their doors, I felt seen. Not just as a woman hoping to adopt, but as a single woman navigating something deeply emotional, sacred, and transformative. They didn’t just hand me a checklist or tell me what to do next. They walked beside me every step of the way.

Through PROCARE’s training, I learned how to bond with my baby from day one, how to respond to trauma with gentleness, how to create a sense of safety and attachment, and how to speak openly and age-appropriately about adoption as my child grows. These weren’t just theoretical lessons. They were rooted in love, experience, and a deep understanding of what adoption really means, for both the child and the parent.

And then came the day that changed everything: I was matched with a baby boy. From the moment I met him, I knew… he was mine, and I was his. It felt like he had always been meant for me. I don’t know how else to describe it but to say: PROCARE united me with the perfect child for me.

Now, life is beautifully full. My days start earlier than they used to, filled with baby giggles, bottles, nappies, and lullabies. My nights are quieter but softer, sometimes sleepless, but always full of love. I’m learning how to balance work, motherhood, and everything in between. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

There are moments of doubt, like any new parent has. But there are far more moments of joy: the first smile, the way he looks at me when he’s comforted, the bond we’re building day by day. I look at him and think, how did I ever live without this love?

To any single woman considering adoption, I want to say this:

You don’t need to wait. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be willing. Willing to love, to learn, and to show up - again and again. With the right support, like I had with PROCARE, you are more than capable of becoming the parent you were meant to be.

Thank you, PROCARE, for believing in me. For holding my hand through the paperwork, the preparation, the nerves, the waiting and finally, for placing this precious soul in my arms. You’ve changed both our lives forever.

And to my son… you were always in my heart, even before I knew your name.