Talking About Suicide and Finding Help
Talking about suicide can feel frightening. You may worry that saying the words will make things worse, or that you will not know what to say. In reality, having an honest conversation can be an important first step towards getting someone the support they need.
When should you be concerned?
People experiencing suicidal thoughts do not always say directly that they are considering suicide. Sometimes the warning signs appear as changes in behaviour or mood. You might notice that someone:
Withdraws from family, friends or activities they usually enjoy
Talks about feeling hopeless, trapped or like a burden
Says that others would be better off without them
Gives away possessions or starts putting their affairs in order
Becomes increasingly distressed, agitated or withdrawn
Talks about death or suicide, even if they appear to be joking
One sign on its own does not necessarily mean someone is suicidal. However, noticeable changes, particularly when several signs occur together, should not simply be ignored.
It is okay to ask directly
If you are worried about someone, find a quiet and private place to talk. You can keep it simple:
“I’ve noticed that you haven’t seemed yourself lately. Are you thinking about suicide?”
Asking directly about suicide does not put the idea into someone's head. It can make it easier for them to speak honestly about what they are experiencing.
If they do open up, listen without judgement. You do not need to have all the answers. Avoid trying to minimise their feelings with comments such as “You have so much to be grateful for” or “Things could be much worse.” Instead, let them know that you are taking them seriously and that they do not have to face this alone.
What can you do?
If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide:
Stay with them if you believe there is an immediate risk.
Encourage them to speak to a professional.
Help them connect with someone they trust.
Take any immediate danger seriously and seek urgent medical or emergency assistance.
Remember that you are not responsible for solving the situation on your own.
If you are struggling yourself
You do not have to wait until things become unbearable before asking for help. Tell someone you trust what is happening. Contact your PROCARE social worker or another relevant mental health professional for support.
If you or someone you care about is struggling, reaching out for support can make a difference. PROCARE is here to provide confidential counselling and support when you need it.